You have known them, I’m sure; everyone knows a Christian who is toxic. He or she is so negative, so irritable, so hateful, and usually so self-righteous that no one, not even the pastor, can stand to be near them. Every church has at least one person like this. The church I attend does, and we have a congregation of less than 100.
What can you do to help the toxic Christian enjoy life more, and make life more pleasant for those nearby?
- Pray for the toxic Christian. Most people like this have become so worn down by the stresses of life that they experience no joy. Pray for this person, that his or her joy will be restored.
- Tell him or her that you love them, and give them a hug. I come from a hugging church, one with many huggers. Rita, a good friend is known for her hugs. Last year when we moved our membership to a new church, I was thrilled to meet Joy, a hugger just like Rita. Everyone needs a hug once in a while. Everyone needs to experience Christian love.
- Invite him or her to dinner. Get to know the toxic Christian. Perhaps… just maybe, they only became toxic after feeling alienated. Maybe he or she simply needs a friend.
- Ask their opinion. By including the toxic Christian in serious conversation, and asking their opinion, you will demonstrate respect. Sometimes, all it takes to melt a heart is love and respect.
Christ tells us that if we believe in Him, then rivers of living water will flow from our hearts. Share that living water with those who thirst most.